You may have heard of EQ, short for emotional intelligence, and IQ, short for intelligence quotient, but you likely aren't familiar with RQ: Relational intelligence, or the skill of navigating relationships well.
RQ is becoming increasingly important because every single area of your life is inevitably impacted by the people in your life.
As an EQ researcher who has coached thousands of people, I've found that our spiritual, physical, financial, emotional and professional progress is tethered to who we allow to be in our lives.
What is relational intelligence?
RQ is the ability to discern if someone should be a part of our lives and what place they should occupy, and then align them accordingly. It also gives you insight into whether you are putting too much or too little effort and time into a relationship.
The first step is to define your relationships, and there are four categories to consider:
1. Friends
We shouldn't feel the same way in our friendships that we feel, say,>How to use RQ to improve your life
Once relational categories have been clearly defined, the next step is to discern who is in your life, what category they currently occupy, and whether they should actually be there.
Without this intentional exercise, we will live in a constant state of relational murkiness and frustration. Reflection is an essential aspect of RQ, and it involves asking the right questions to give clarity.
Here are a few to get you started:
1. Where am I in life? Think about where you are — emotionally, spiritually, professionally, and so>The most successful people are 'people smart'
The goal of becoming people smart is not to get the most out of others, or to manipulate our way to the top. It's to a better friend and to better friends.
We want to give the most that we can to others, and to do so in a reciprocal context. One of the greatest things we can achieve in life is to create an environment where we can receive and give again.
